The Birth of a Family

 

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Inspired by this gorgeous post by Em over at The Beetle Shack, I’m sharing the story of Boyo’s birth, and my thoughts on birth plans.  Despite my birth not going to plan (nowhere near, in fact), I’m a big fan of birth plans.

 

I gave birth the next day!

I gave birth the next day!

The day before my due date, very early in the morning, my waters broke.  Such a big pop – I was so surprised.  I called out to the Welshman that I thought my waters had broken.  He very sleepily replied “You think or you know?”, as he’d only recently gone to sleep.  Something to do with a heavily pregnant wife disrupting his sleep.  As you do.

Due to the large size of my baby, firmly entrenched in posterior position, and my severe SPD, my ob had recommended an induction and I was booked in for the earliest possible time, the Monday morning following my Saturday due date.  However, Boyo had other ideas and decided to arrive a day early.  As the son of a project director and an executive assistant, maybe he knew how important deadlines are!

I knew that births, especially first time births, don’t go to plan, but I did prepare a birth plan.  Not a blueprint of how I wanted my birth to happen, but more as a guideline and research tool.

I think people approach birth plans the wrong way. Thinking of it as a plan that you are going to follow step by step is a path that leads to madness and failure.  However, approached as a list of options and information handily contained in a one page document, it is gold!

As my labour did not go ‘to plan’ at all, winding up with an emergency Caesarean, incessant vomiting and allergic reactions to drugs, the birth plan was also extremely helpful for the Welshman.  I literally lost the ability to speak, and he had to be my voice.

Boyo and I would maybe not be here today if we hadn’t had an emergency Caesarean. A combination of a very quick progression (period cramps to full labour within 30 minutes), tiny pelvis (who knew my baby-got-back butt didn’t mean everything wasn’t quite as generously proportioned), EnormoBaby in posterior position (4.5 kgs, 58 cm long, straight into 00!), severe SPD (couldn’t open my legs too far – handy when giving birth), non-stop vomiting (which got worse when I had an allergic reaction to painkillers and then another allergic reaction to the anti-emetic to stop my vomiting) meant my birthing experience wasn’t very pretty.

 

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Not pretty, but it was bloody beautiful. It brought our Boyo in the world and turned us from a couple into a family. It reinforced my love for the Welshman, as I witnessed his fierce love and protectiveness for me.  He advocated for me when I was unable to communicate.

My beautiful birth delivered a healthy baby and a healthy mama and turned my amazing husband into a fantastic father.  Having a Caesarean has a few unexpected side benefits – apart from remaining “honeymoon fresh” according to Kaz Cooke.  The main one is the precious bonding time after the birth that the Welshman and Boyo got to share whilst I was comatose in recovery.

My blokefolk were waiting in my room when I was wheeled back, and at the sound of my voice, Boyo cried for his mama. Oh, it was the most beautiful sound.

I remember waking in the night and seeing my sleeping husband and my sleeping baby and feeling that all was right with the world.

Boyo’s birth wasn’t pretty and it wasn’t as planned but it was still the most magical experience of my life.

 

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  • Raychael aka Mystery Case - 4 May 2015 - 8.15 pm

    Love that last photo of your little family. Just gorgeous. I really should get my girls birth stories down on paper. The first was without incident but our second was 5 weeks early and third 10 weeks early, both rather traumatic at the time and we had 3 under 3 girls. It’s only now that our youngest is 14 that I can look back.ReplyCancel

  • Recycling Greetings Cards | Kimba Likes - 17 November 2013 - 7.04 am

    […] favourite photo of us, with the exception of our wedding photos and the first family photos with baby Boyo, is this series of photobooth images.  I’d always had issues with framing them properly, but […]ReplyCancel

  • Recycling Birthday Cards | Kimba Likes - 5 November 2013 - 5.47 am

    […] favourite photo of us, with the exception of our wedding photos and the first family photos with baby Boyo, is this series of photobooth images.  I’d always had issues with framing them properly, but […]ReplyCancel

  • Aroha @ Colours of Sunset - 11 September 2013 - 4.47 pm

    beautiful walk down memory lane, thanks for taking us with you. i am glad you both were fine in the end! when the midwife asked if i had a birth plan I said “for us to both get through this and be healthy at whatever cost!” she almost looked relieved. N wasn’t as big as Boyo, but he was posterior too, “Saved by the haemorrhoid” is not something you really want to hear out of your OB’s mouth as you tear!ReplyCancel

  • Emma Salkild - 14 June 2013 - 7.33 am

    Whoa 4.5kilo baby in posterior! Thank goodness for modern medicine. What a beautiful post. Loved reading this and seeing your photos. I always like hearing birth stories. Am I weird?

    I wrote a birth plan too that I discussed with my partner and no one else really. Unless they asked me about it.ReplyCancel

  • Grace - 21 February 2013 - 4.42 pm

    Because I had a high risk twin pregnancy, I had the most detailed birth plan imaginable. Not so much my doing buy my OB’s. Most of it went to plan except for the shakes that I got throughout the entire C-Section. That was weird!
    Gorgeous birth photos, Kimba!
    Especially love the black and white one 🙂 xxxReplyCancel

    • Kim-Marie Williams - 14 June 2013 - 12.14 pm

      Oh yes, I adore that one. I had the shakes and vomiting too – who knew I was allergic to drugs until I had them! xxReplyCancel

  • Emily @ Have a laugh on me - 19 February 2013 - 12.43 pm

    Wow that sounds like a major ordeal – what a special wee soul he is, and you for getting through it all. I had 3 very easy births – it’s just afterwards that I’m now suffering with their behaviour 😉ReplyCancel

  • Janet from Redland City Living - 15 February 2013 - 5.52 pm

    My goodness, he was a big ‘un! Oh how I love to read birth stories (even though my kids are now 18 & 16)! My favourite TV show is “One born every minute” … I always find myself tearing over the miracle of new life!ReplyCancel

    • Kim-Marie Williams - 15 February 2013 - 6.51 pm

      Yes, he was a patented EnormoBaby! I haven’t seen that program. Best watched with ambos of tissues? XReplyCancel

  • Kate Campbell - 15 February 2013 - 5.23 pm

    Such a great story. I like the stories that don’t go to plan, they have something to teach us. I agree about birth plans – I think they are a good idea but need to be really flexible. It’s more a wishlist than a how-to isn’t it?ReplyCancel

  • The Babbling Bandit - 14 February 2013 - 9.42 pm

    Beautiful story!ReplyCancel

  • em @ the beetle shack - 14 February 2013 - 8.17 am

    yes, a completely beautiful birth and story 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Rachel from Redcliffe Style - 14 February 2013 - 7.51 am

    Gorgeous story, thanks for sharing xxReplyCancel

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