Where did I come from?

 

 

Have you had “the talk” with your kids yet?  Are you dreading it?  It’s hard to find the right balance of detail, fact and vital not to giggle frantically when discussing it rationally with your child.  Here’s our story.

 

 

A couple of years ago, aged about six and a half, Boyo started expressing a great deal of interest in where babies come from.  We were heading off on a road trip to Canberra, and the Welshman and Boyo stocked up on books for the trip from the local second hand bookshop.  One of the books they bought was the classic “Where Did I Come From?”.

On the way to Canberra – boy, it can be a loooong trip – we had a fairly high level, ie, not too detailed, discussion about how babies are made.  There was some discussion about sperm and eggs and I think one of us may have even used that embarrassing phrase we possibly remembered from our own childhoods – “when two people love each other very, very much …”

Fortunately, he wasn’t too interested in how the sperm actually get to meet the egg – in our case there were doctors and test tubes involved – but he was absolutely fascinated that women are born with their eggs inside them, but men make their “sperms”.

As we discussed the testicles being a “sperm factory”, he declared that he could feel it, and it did indeed feel like tickling.  He started singing “there’s a party in my balls, there’s a party in my balls …”.  Gods, I am forever grateful that the Welshman was driving, for I believe I may have had to run off the road, so convulsed by giggles was I.

Luckily, he got bored by this pretty soon, and was more interested in playing DS games.  At his age, I used to suffer from terrible car sickness, so I’m terribly impressed with his ability to read and play games on the road.

 

 

We did have a chat to him saying that it is important not to discuss this with other children, unless they bring it up first with you, as their parents might not be ready to discuss it with them yet.

Imagine my surprise when one of the Gorgeous Girls told me about a very interesting discussion Boyo had had whilst on the walk home from school to his playdate.  Her children were not yet aware of where babies came from, having not yet expressed any interest in this particular subject matter.  Well, they weren’t before the walk home anyway.

When I had a further little chat with Boyo regarding this brazen breaking of the rules we’d discussed, he fixed with me a withering look and informed me that he was discussing it with his friend’s mother.  “Mum, she has had three babies.  I’m pretty sure she already knows where babies come from”, he told me, in a tone that left no doubt that I was an idiot.

What can one say to that?!

Have you had the chat yet?  Do you remember cringing with embarrassment when your parents discussed the birds and bees with you?

 

 

 

 

  • Bree @ Twinkle in the Eye - 20 December 2012 - 9.24 pm

    A party in my balls eh! Lol. How gorgeous 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Norlin Mustapha - 14 December 2012 - 2.52 pm

    LOL! That’s hilarious! the song he created AND the fact that he so blatantly told you that his friend’s mum would already know about the birds & the bees seeing that she’s had 3 kids! Duh mum! hahaha…Yeah, well, Miss 10 got her info from a boy in school. she doesn’t really know how it works, except that it involves a vagina & penis being together. Oh my am I NOT waiting for the time where I would have to explain in detail. :/ReplyCancel

    • Kim-Marie Williams - 14 December 2012 - 4.48 pm

      I’m just glad I don’t have to have the sanitary products discussion with Boyo. Good thing about having only one son!ReplyCancel

  • Eleise Bott - 14 December 2012 - 12.33 pm

    Oh dear, the joys of parenting, unfortunately we have had the chat on a very high level with our teenagers regularly.ReplyCancel

  • Cass Can Sew - 14 December 2012 - 8.13 am

    My big miss is 12… so I think I’d be a bad parent if we hadn’t discussed the topic by now :-/ lol. I’ve always been really open about that kind of stuff with Em. I’d rather her feel comfortable to approach me with things like puberty, boyfriends and all that. Last year, I found a copy of another book in the Where Did I Come From series… What’s Happening to Me. I gave her the book and she spent days reading it… asking lots of questions and skipping past the naked men and women cartoons very quickly. lol.
    Boyo is one clever lad 😉 Great post xoReplyCancel

    • Kim-Marie Williams - 14 December 2012 - 4.49 pm

      Ah yes, I do remember that one. I think we had it in school. I must get a copy of that in the next few years.ReplyCancel

  • bbeingcool - 13 December 2012 - 4.49 pm

    We have talked about the basics… But… at the moment we are living blissfully in denial… The time will come and we will have to work out how to tackle it… I think my days are numbered. My eldest turns 8 next year. Sigh.ReplyCancel

    • Kim-Marie Williams - 14 December 2012 - 7.59 am

      I think it is important to discuss it before they get “the talk” at school, which I think is Year 4 or 5? We just answer questions as they come up with as much detail as we’re comfortable with at the time.ReplyCancel

  • Mama Stylista - 12 December 2012 - 10.30 am

    I love this post! I can just see Boyo’s withering look too. How funny. I’m dreading when that moment comes with my son. xReplyCancel

  • kyl21z - 11 December 2012 - 7.40 pm

    That is just too cute!

    I remember being so embarressed when Mum tried to talk to us about things like that. I was a reader and I always preferred to get my info from books and thankfuly, for the most part, Mum was pretty obliging and got me some cool books, handing them over with the words, if there is anything you don’t understand you can always come and ask me.ReplyCancel

  • Rita - 11 December 2012 - 5.54 pm

    Haha! What a clever boy you have!ReplyCancel

  • EssentiallyJess - 11 December 2012 - 4.17 pm

    I’ve had half of it with my nine year old. She knows about eggs and menstruation but not sperm or how it gets there. I’ll wait a little long for that 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Catherine RodieBlagg - 11 December 2012 - 2.09 pm

    What a totally gorgeous story! Def one for his 21st 🙂

    We haven’t got to that yet with ours, I’m kinda dreading it.ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Thompson - 11 December 2012 - 2.02 pm

    I thankfully have a few years yet, but I love to read posts like this so I can prepare myself for fits of giggles and explaining about the sharing of information….I hadn’t thought of that 🙂
    Becc via #ibotReplyCancel

  • mandy @ makemeupmandy - 11 December 2012 - 10.23 am

    This is too funny!! Your boy is absolutely precious. I laughed out loud when he said he could feel the party lol. My parents told me as a child about sperm n eggs but she never explained how eggs got there so i always thought dad puts the chicken egg in there somehow (yes i always thought my mum meant chicken eggs)ReplyCancel

  • ColoursofSunset - 11 December 2012 - 8.17 am

    made me laugh so hard I snorted, and my husband just looked at me and rolled his eyes. Until I told him what I was laughing at. Then he laughed too. I’ve told my husband since we have a boy, the birds and the bees talk is up to him.ReplyCancel

  • Rachel Wernicke - 11 December 2012 - 7.34 am

    I have talked to my girls about this. They continually crack me up. They know everything except about erections. For some reason I can’t bring myself to talk about that yet. They ask many, many questions, and I am happy to answer them all. My husband on the other hand, puts his fingers in his ears and goes “lalalala I can’t hear you’ReplyCancel

  • Lydia Lee - 11 December 2012 - 7.19 am

    The car (or sports events) are great places – I second the need for no eye contact on any subject that maybe uncomfortable for one party. But the earlier you start, the less of a thing it is. It’s not embarrassing until you’re taught it’s embarrassing…ReplyCancel

  • Sophie Allen - 11 December 2012 - 6.24 am

    I am dreading it! I did have to explain to my 6 year old (in McCafe) how the baby actually gets out of the mummy. As yet, we have not had to discuss how it got in there to begin with. Boks, lots of books! Great idea.. I need to stock up when I see them. Our oldest is almost 9…ReplyCancel

    • Kim-Marie Williams - 11 December 2012 - 7.12 am

      The car is a great spot. Captive audience and you don’t have to look at each other! XReplyCancel

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